I was inspired to fill out my own "yes-no-maybe" list after the "true end" of a webcomic series I love dearly was presented today. It's going to be very detailed, so let it be know that YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED. Anyway, some preface notes:
1). I am a virgin, so all my answers will be as close as I can accurately give based solely on what I want/don't want.
2). In all questions referring to a partner, I will be under the assumption that my partner is either:
A - a homosexual and biological male
or
B - a biological female who identifies as a homosexual male and prefers a homosexual male as his sex partner with the verbal agreement that no attention will be paid to the birth parts between his front legs
No offense to anyone, I just really don't feel comfortable thinking physical intimacy with women at all. And if it matters to anyone, I'd prefer my partner be no more than 4 years younger or 12 years older than me, regardless of how old I end up before truly having intercourse on a semi-regular basis.
All answers are for me, mind you. So, let it begin!
Body Boundaries
Q - Having a partner touch me affectionately without asking first
A - yes
Q - Touching a partner affectionately without asking first
A - yes; sometimes at least
Q - Having a partner touch me sexually without asking first
A - maybe; moreso if we already have had sex once already
Q - Touching a partner sexually without asking first
A - maybe; but I'd prefer to ask first, usually
Q - Having a partner touch me affectionately in public
A - yes (please)
Q - Touching a partner affectionately in public
A - yes; if they tell me so
Q - Having a partner touch me sexually in public
A - maybe; probably yes, though I hope its at least semi-discreet
Q - Touching a partner sexually in public
A - maybe; if they ask me to or heavily hint at it?
Q - Having my shirt/top off with a partner
Having a partner's shirt/top off
Having my pants/bottoms off with a partner
Having a partner's pants/bottoms off
A - yes to all
Q - Being completely naked with a partner with the lights off or low
Having a partner be completely naked with the lights off or low
Having a partner be completely naked with the lights on
A - yes to these, but...
Q - Being completely naked with a partner with the lights on
A - maybe~leaning no on this one
Q - Direct eye contact
A - yes; unless they tell me of a personal problem w/ it
Q - Being looked at directly, overall, when I am naked
A - maybe; I'm shy about my body
Q - Grooming or toileting in front of a partner
A - maybe; if they say they're ok w/ it
Q - Having a partner groom/use the toilet in front of me
A - no thanks
Q - Having my genitals looked at directly
A - yes
Q - Having a partner talk about my body
A - maybe; if they feel like it, though I don't prefer it
Q - Talking about a partner's body
A - no; unless they ask me to
Q - Having some or all of a disability, identity or difference I have be specifically made part of sex, sexualized or objectified
Having some or all of a disability, identity or difference a partner has be specifically made part of sex,
sexualized or objectified
A - no to both
Q - Seeing or being exposed to other kinds of body fluids
(like semen, sweat or urine)
A - maybe; yes on semen and sweat; NO to the third one
Q - Shaving/trimming/removing my own pubic hair
A - yes
Q - Shaving/trimming/removing a partner's pubic hair
A - maybe; though I wouldn't ask to sit in on it but if they need my help, I guess
Some parts of my body are just off-limits. Those are: I don't think there are any. But I'm Very, VERY ticklish in most places. (Like, can't-stop-kicking level of ticklish).
I am not comfortable looking at, touching or feeling some parts of another person's body. Those are: I pretty much mentioned this in my intro~.
What helps me feel most comfortable being naked with someone? What are ways a partner does or may talk about my body make or could make me feel uncomfortable? What do I "count" as sexual touching and what do I consider affectionate touching?
Um, when you (my partner) talk about things you like about me besides my body, like while we're naked. And then between your points, kiss me in various places. Like, show that you notice things most people probably take for granted (it's the little things, people!). Basically I don't ever like my weight or size of things ever being talked about by other people asides myself. Period. So just avoid that and we're cool. I like when people appreciate my ideas and overall effort I put into things--recognize how passionate I am and I could hardly be happier! Sexual touching is basically any touch of my backside, privates or upper chest around the nipples and I don't prefer that unless you are really in the mood. I'm pretty much as turned on as my partner is or isn't at the time. Take that as you want~.
Words & Terms
I prefer the following gender/sexual identity or role words (like man, woman, boi, femme, butch, top, etc.) to be used for me: Man, Sir
I prefer my chest or breasts be referred to as: Chest (maybe "moobs", in jokes only)
I prefer my genitals to be referred to as: Penis/Cock/Stick
I prefer my sexual orientation and/or identity to be referred to as: Homo/Queer/"Nine-Tenths Gay"
Some words I am not okay with to refer to me, my identity, my body, or which I am uncomfortable using or hearing about, with or during any kind of sex are: Fag; being called a girl or having any part of my body called by a part normally belonging to females (i.e. "pussy", "breasts", etc.)
Are certain words okay in some settings or situations but not in others? How flexible am I with what a partner might want to call something I like calling something else?
I will be flexible depending on how long I've known you and we've talked. In short, expect me to be very inflexible for the first month or two of knowing you, even if we've started on sex by then. I hope that's reasonable.
Stay tuned when next I cover subjects such as: relationship models, safe sex and sexual responses~!
Lol, as if anyone really reads my blog seriously. See ya, weirdos! xD
