Ominous post title is ominous, ooooo~.
I could seriously groan about some things though. Welp, so I'm single again. Not that that's a large surprise given my personal rapport but... its still mildly depressing. Oh well, I felt my connection to him fading about a month ago anyway and a week or more ago, the little scrod declares himself single and to "hit me up" in an update. Don't even bother trying to talk to the guy who would stick buy you so long as it was what you desired, just declare yourself open for business. No offense, but its just a little cheap. Do you even respect yourself? Did you even think, "hey, he's not talking much, maybe he thinks I'm busy or maybe, idk, he wants me to grab his attention with a simple, 'hi' once within 168 hours?" Honestly, I have my doubts, but I will not deny you making your own decisions. It's more than you've actively given me in months. I handed you my undivided devotion for 7, se-ven, months. I know I can't do much but I would have given you the moon if it were even possible. It's your loss.
I want to say that, but really, I don't feel I deserve to. I know how imperfect I am that it seriously hurts. My own mother just didn't care enough about me growing up. I have no father and my grandfather has lost his patience with my eons ago and we argue too easily over petty things. I do not envy my home life in the slightest.
I try very hard to be positive and kind to other people but it feels increasingly difficult lately. One acquaintance barely speaks to me. The one who speaks to me most actively has been in a series of odd extremes of interest and apathy lately that when I try to share things I'm happy to do so (in the act of share, discuss, etc.) I feel like I'm doing them more harm than good. It doesn't help they've felt slightly abused in their closest relationship outside myself (relatively speaking, this may not be fully accurate). One acquaintance I have to practically berate just to get them to talk to me like a normal human being with due respect and I feel like I lecture them a lot over things I shouldn't need to. And the last one, I have even less patience with and they are under the impression I'm always mean and tight wound with everyone ever.
Well, being single I guess lets me mingle. If you can even call it that. One person I do like, a lot. I genuinely want to know them better but its hard for me to say that straight out. I know they've also had a lot of bad luck (this is a person whose "first time" occurred when they were barely a teenager and could be described as non-consensual by some accounts) with relationships that they are likely more hesitant than ME at trying again. My timing appears to just really blow right now. Regardless of how they respond, I won't press them too much regardless. It's someone I really want to do right by (and I've been trying to do so each time aforehand as well) so its okay if he doesn't want to try Skype-ing me or whatnot. I just want to spend time with him because I have liked him for a long time already. I have more or less implied I certainly "like" him but well, you know, he may not think I "like him, like him", for some reason. I hope I haven't done anything to offend him or if there's something about me that somehow repulses him that I'm unaware of. One can hope.
Sometimes I also feel confused about my sexual identity. Not as far as whether I'm gay or not (still pretty certainly am) but regarding my "position" and stuff. I would like to top, but some people have given me the impression that a person isn't gay unless they've had butt sex and were receiving it (as a male). Yes I believe this is bull (because girls can plug their straight mates' arses with a dildo if it so fancies them to be perfectly frank) but SOME people act snobbish towards others just because they feel because they have experience it gives them the right to levy the, "but how do you know!? you haven't done it" card. And that is just rude, okay. Maybe I don't want to take it because I don't WANT TO, I certainly don't need to have any sex, okay? I at least deserve to have my first time be how I want because most of the time I'm too focused on what everyone else wants and when they leave me I feel that I failed to be of any worth to them! I failed to make them happy, to make them unable to find their way out of sorrow, to realize they could be happy with me. So excuse me if I want to top a person once in my life because I like to GIVE more than RECEIVE in every sense of the word. I'm so shy about my body because my family never supports me in anything and my grandfather puts me down all the time, insisting I go on extreme crash diets like its perfectly normal. And I don't care about being attractive. I want to be desired for things other than my appearance. .-. But according to my family, "no one will want to be with you (me) because of how you look and you never do anything". Yep.
The latter point is total bull. I do plenty, at times I feel I'm doing too much. I just don't have drive to do certain things like drive a vehicle, or work out, or "socialize" (hah, what a joke, like I'm going to drive 30 minutes to even get towards civilization and come home just to say I did something with people, the people that close are mostly boring as dirt anyway). Not for just myself. For another... maybe. It's easier. If they at least talk to me enough and sincerely want it themself. All you really need to say is, "I want it for you because... it's you," and if I know myself and have gotten to know you, I'll probably believe you then. And it will be enough. You (to my future lover) are enough.
'Til next time, readers.
