Well, every now and then I do sort of wonder if I really know what I want from people. I'd at least like to claim that I have some vague idea as to what I hope to find in an eventual long-time relationship. So, I thought that I'd share the qualities that I would hope to find in a person I'd think of as truly ideal...
-my ideal lover should be either male or strongly in touch with his/her masculinity
-my ideal lover would rarely exert dominance, instead emphasizing harmony
-my ideal lover should be shorter than me by at least two inches or more (I'm 6'4")
-my ideal lover could have nearly any body type as long as they suffer from no major illnesses or conditions
-my ideal lover would understand the importance of restraint, save when it comes to passionate excursions or defending the wrongfully accused
-my ideal lover would not be one for giving nor receiving praise, simply believing in positive reinforcement when it appears pertinent
-my ideal lover would seek my help after first attempting a solution to their problem by their own merit
-my ideal lover should understand that to be with me is to be loved, to be wanted and needed simultaneously; which that is why I use the word "lover" in reference to them and not "partner"
-my ideal lover would inject humor even at their own expense if I'm down, showing true commitment and depth of character
-my ideal lover could cry if they wanted to and understand that I don't think of it as a sign of weakness, but to be endeared for entrusting me with their emotions
-my ideal lover should never willfully impose harm on their own well-being, let alone the livelihood of others (including things such as smoking, over-drinking, self-mutilation and etc.)
-my ideal lover would understand that it's okay to not meet all of these expectations and if they truly do love me, compromises can be reached
That's pretty much it. I, personally, don't think that is a completely unreasonable nor too long list of traits (in fact I meet a large number of them personally, but I'm hoping for someone with different interests or at least someone not too much like me in appearance or necessarily interests to help me really enjoy life and appreciate differences without being overly aggressive about it). Felt I'd keep this to remind myself of what's important now and perhaps late I can come back and see if anything has changed? Perhaps.
